i believe this to be the answer. thanks for the e-mail. i wanted to follow up on the forum.
<?php
if($post->post_parent)
$children = wp_list_pages(“title_li=&child_of=”.$post->post_parent.”&echo=0″);
else
$children = wp_list_pages(“title_li=&child_of=”.$post->ID.”&echo=0″);
if ($children) { ?>
<?php } ?>
thanks i will check it out.
thanks. i think i get it. just include the ones you want on each side. thanks again.