Data not in Sync

I use the same SES account for 3 of my websites

well i was just setting up the third, i put the same access keys into my wp-config.php, and saw that they were shown in the access keys section, but when i tried sending an email it failed because i havent verified the sender.

The thing is that i already have the domain verified as an identity along with the other two, which is why its weird, when i check my other two websites, they both show all 3 domain names in the verified sender list, but this new website shows none even though the access keys are the same, that makes no sense to me

Note that i set up this plugin on my first website, then duplicated my first website to make my second, but this time i am starting my third from the ground up.

i believe i had no trouble with this on the second website because it was essentially a duplciate of the first

please advise me on what to do, and no there are no errors in the debug log so please dont start with that