obviously I should write how to use it:
create a custom format in download monitor configuration (preferably one that doesn’t contain a link since that would circumvent the whole point of EBD).
to the email-download short-code in a page, add the form_download_format_id="<id>" as an attribute, where <id> = the id of the custom format you just created.
This was actually very simple to implement.
http://pastebin.com/tKDheAMf