aha! not sure what i was doing wrong but eye-balling it character by character compared to what you posted here, i deleted everything and re-entered it, now is working! may have just been a stray character in there somewhere.
now the biggest problem is that when sending it to my gmail account, it always ends up in the spam folder. damn gmail. i know that issue is beyond the scope of this plugin but if you have ideas on that, that would be great!
WP v4.7.3, Contactform7 v4.7
Seems like what I want to do should be simple enough but I must be doing something wrong, would appreciate any help as far as how to set this up.