if you are using wordpress 2.7+, try changing
<?php wp_list_pages(‘title_li=’); ?>
to
<?php wp_page_menu(‘show_home=1&title_li=’); ?>
It worked great for me and it uses the same style classes as wp_list_pages().
-Pete
Found it! The answer is in this post.
You have to use the lesser know function “wp_page_menu(‘show_home=1&title_li=’)” instead of the more popularly listed function “wp_list_pages()”.
I really think the “wp_page_menu()” function should be giving a more prominent place on the wordpress site and should be include in the design & layout pages. It would have saved me A LOT of time.